Top Or Bottom?

Whether you're new to gay dating or you've been at it your whole life, chances are good you're familiar with the idea of topping and bottoming. You might have heard it as pitching and catching or simply giving and receiving. The bottom is penetrated and the top does the penetrating and when it comes to gay guys having sex a decision has to be made on that before you can get it on (unless you're going strictly oral, which is more common than you might imagine).

When you dip your toes into the gay dating pool you should have some idea of your preferred position. Some guys are strictly tops and they don't want to date another top since the sexual math on that just doesn't work out. As you might expect, some guys are strictly bottoms and they need to date a man willing to penetrate. That all makes sense, right?

So how do you decide if you're a top or a bottom? You could start with porn and see if you relate to either of the guys in any particular way. Does it turn you on to see the bottom penetrated deep by the shaft of the top or do you feel like you want to be the one directing his manhood into a tight bottom hole and thrusting deep? If porn doesn't clear it up for you then you should head out into the gay dating world and find gay guys that list themselves as versatile. Those are men that are willing to top or bottom, which would make them perfect for experimenting with and discovering exactly what it is about sex with gay guys that turns you on the most.

Some versatile men prefer to lean one way or the other but for the most part if they're willing to top or bottom they'll find satisfaction in both, which gives you an opportunity to explore your desires in a healthy, beautiful way and truly have a good time with another man. Whether you're topping or bottom during a gay dating experience you will find it's beautiful, pleasurable, and fulfilling in the all the ways you want.

There is a distinct difference between the two though. When you bottom for gay guys it's a more receptive experience as you are penetrated and more often than not you give yourself over to the ravenous sexual desires of the top. He's not using you (unless that's what you want), but he's largely taking charge as he thrusts into you. When you top the script is flipped and you're the one taking charge and penetrating a man, filling him with your manhood and giving him what he craves. The feelings are exceptionally different and that's why so many guys end up choosing one or the other since they tend to provide satisfaction in different ways. It's a matter of deciding which type of satisfaction you really want. You can't go wrong topping or bottoming with gay guys so no matter what you choose you're guaranteed a good time.

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