Even if you haven't completed step two, which can take a while, it's wise to put yourself on the market and start the dating process (if you're just looking to hook up and have good gay sex you can pretty much do that at any time). Gay guys aren't above being cruel if they're not into you but you need experience in meeting men, socializing, flirting, etc. and the only way to get that experience is by putting yourself out there. Of course it can be scary but you need to try.
So how do you go about doing that? There are lots of options! You can join a gay social network or dating site and use the connections you make there to get dates. There are hook up sites where the guys are just looking for sex as well. You can try Craigslist but that's more likely to get you involved with a creep or a weirdo than it is a good guy. If you're a little shy then online is a great place to start. You can socialize on message boards or through social networking tools. Put a good profile on a dating site and see if you get any bites. Send messages to the guys you find attractive even if you don't think you'll get a response. You can make friends even if you don't end up with the dates you're looking for.
If you don't want to meet guys online don't fret, there are still lots of great options. These days you'll have a local option (or somewhat local) almost no matter where you live. A big city is the best place to meet gay guys but even in small towns you should be able to find something. Doing research online is the best way to find where to go, particularly with so many gay friendly communities to help guide guys like you to a place of happiness with relationships.
Step two sort of goes hand in hand with step three since if you're serious about putting yourself out there you should try your best to be impressive. If you're going to a bar then dress nicely. If you're going to a night club then dress even nicer. Take a shower beforehand and spend a little time grooming. First impressions mean a whole lot. In the blink of an eye a guy will size you up in all manner of ways, including some you've never imagined. How you present yourself says a lot to the rest of the world and you have the power to control that. Make sure you take advantage of that power.
Part of getting into a rewarding gay relationship is a willingness to keep trying if you fail. If you try to talk to a guy and it doesn't work out then try again. If you make a date and it's terrible then make another with a different guy. Don't be put off if something goes bad because that's what happens. Put yourself out there with confidence!
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